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What is success?

What is success?

Success is doing something you love, which gives you satisfaction, fun and in business, the income you need to achieve to live the life you are happy to lead.

How can you get there?

 

  •  Through knowing yourself well enough to use your talents wisely.
  •  Having a self-belief, which allows you to be confident – you are great and unique!
  •  Engaging others authentically whilst adapting to their expectations and needs
  •  Focusing on what you love doing and not getting tied up with what others want you to do
  •  Knowing what success looks like for you and going for it
  •  And of course putting the time in to get there!

 

Yes it is that simple, but not always that easy! Sometimes we need to take a step back and look at who we are, why we are doing what we are doing and what we really want from our lives, business or career.

We often think we know ourselves really well, but may be seeing learned behaviours – things which, yes we do well, but can often drain us of energy.  If we know more about our natural strengths, those things which, when we are doing them, life seems to zip by, we have a great day and the sense of achievement is amazing – and we do these more often, then success will be just that bit closer!

There will course then be gaps and challenges for us, but recognising and acknowledging these will give us the opportunity to tackle them more effectively.

When we know who we are, allow our thinking processes to follow a natural path and present ourselves to others from this perspective, confidence will grow and success will follow.

Do you know who you are? See if you can identify your natural strength

Eight Profiles – Your Natural Strength & Style

 

 

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What is ‘Brand You’

Would you be able to describe your brand (that is – who you are and what you are about) to a future employer or a new client? If you don’t know who you are and how you want to be seen how can others make the right assessment of you?

Do you know how you are perceived by others? Have you asked?

When we meet people for the first time, as much as we would like to deny it, they will make a judgement and that will happen within the first 7 – 30 seconds – how much time does that give you to tell them about yourself? First impressions are critical, you are marketing a product – YOU!

Think about how you want to be seen.

  1.  Do you know your personality type? Knowing this will not put you in a ‘box’ it will give you the tools to work with your strengths. Do you tend towards introversion? If so how can you use this thoughtful approach? If you are more extrovert, how can you use your great communication to best advantage without over whelming?
  2. What are your strengths? Are you happiest when able to use your creativity, explore new ideas and look at developing new products or are you a great relationship builder, loving to network and build trust with future prospective clients. Maybe you’re at your best when developing a business plan, organising an event or possibly working with budgets and numbers makes your day feel really satisfying.
  3. Do you make the most of your strengths dedicating a higher proportion of your time to areas where your feel you can really have an impact?
  4.  Do you know your personal values? If you understand what really matters to you it will help you choose the right career and look for the most suitable employers for you. If you are running your own business this understanding will help you focus on the clients you want to work with and those who will get the most from your business.
  5. Have you really considered carefully how you dress? What does what you wear say about you? There is a chance, if we all dress in dark suits white shirts and for men sober ties we become clones and loose our personal impact. In the current market you need to fit in enough to be accepted and stand out enough to have that extra edge!
  6. Does your personal presentation reflect your own unique style and personality, allowing for adaptions to meet client expectations?

 

The best approach would be to research the dress code of the organisation or       client you are meeting. Then dress one step up from their everyday dress code. This will ensure that you fit in, but also show that you have made an effort. Don’t forget that it is important to retain you own personal style as well, this can be done through colour – subtle style elements to your clothes or by the accessories you choose. You can express your personality through your style!

Lastly on the appearance front – grooming is vital! From combing your hair to polishing your shoes! More tips here http://totally-you-consulting.co.uk/making-an-impression-the-small-stuff-really-does-count/

Ladies – did you know that research suggests that women who wear well applied subtle make up are paid 23% higher than those who wear none!

Gentlemen – Facial hair is now seen as more acceptable in business, but concealing the lips and mouth is still a barrier to good communication. If you are going for a beard or stubble, you’ll need to spend more time, not less, on grooming!

7. What about your body language – how do you communicate when you first meet someone? How firm is your handshake? Do you make good eye contact? Do you sit and stand confidently? Most importantly – do you smile – with   your  eyes too!

 8. Finally – you have made a fantastic first impression you have shown that you have thought about the culture of the organisation or client you are meeting, they can see that you will indeed fit in and are able to retain and express your own personality, so now is the time to clearly express your skill strengths that align so well with the job that is on offer.

 Take time to look at ‘Brand You’ whether you are changing employers, moving up through an organisation or working for yourself, understanding your brand and how others see you will lead to more inner confidence and greater personal success!

 If you would like to explore your personality, understand your strengths and challenges and how to apply this to your business, maybe taking the Talent Dynamics profile with a follow up coaching session would work for you. If so give me a call 07742 445243.  We can talk about how it works and if it would be useful for you.

Does Your Personality Shine Through Your Style?

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Have you ever walked into a room and noticed someone who looks like a vibrant out going person only to be surprised when you speak to them and find it difficult to engage them  in conversation? Or perhaps you have approached a very subdued looking individual and then found they are bubbly and expressive.

Whether it’s consciously or unconsciously we tend to make an initial judgement on others in the room by what we see and engage in conversation with that thought in mind.

Considering our personal style when dressing can really help to ensure that we are encouraging an approach from others that we are comfortable with and results in great communication.

So if you are naturally quiet and introverted- dressing in elegant, sophisticated styles and wearing more muted but beautifully put together colours will encourage a more questioning, calmer approach.

For those who enjoy an enthusiastic and outgoing encounter, wearing a stronger look in contrasting and more vibrant colours – perhaps including some quirkiness in style will draw in the communication that works with your personality.

So many of use think a lot about what we say and often forget the impact of how we look!

Top Business Women Dress with Confidence

Shoot photo cropDo you dress to represent who you really are or do you conform to the rules and blend in with the crowd?

I am not suggesting that it is always appropriate to dress in outrageous styles and colours. but so many of us do the complete opposite and get lost in the background. Is that OK for you or do you need to be seen to raise your profile?

Being successful in any sphere of life depends on our self esteem and confidence, it can be easy to run with the pack and try not to stand out, but what will that achieve? Yes it is more difficult to assert your personality and true values through your appearance, especially if you are not accustomed to being noticed, but it can make so much difference.

I work with many brilliant, intelligent and focused women who are successfully building their careers, however many of them have something else in common.  Talk to them about their skills, and their confidence is obvious, talk to them about themselves, the impact they personally make on others and their personal confidence and self esteem are much lower.

This doesn’t seem to cause them quite so much of a problem until reaching senior management, board level or  starting a business. It is then that there is a  need to be seen for who you are, not a copy or reflection of  perhaps a male counterpart or corporate environment. Standing out as a professional confident woman, who expresses her own unique personality, through communication and physical appearance, will make a huge positive impact on those around you and lead to greater success.

If you would like to make that positive impression here are 5 initial tips to help you think about how you can be uniquely you in your career or business.

1. Know your values – what you stand for and how you want to be seen and heard.

  • You can achieve this through working with a great coach, who will help you explore this in a new and objective way.
  • Consider your communication style and your body language.

2. Think about your work environment – what is expected – dress codes etc. How can you fit in where you need to and yet allow your personality to shine through? (What is your style personality?)

  • Jewellery, scarves, belts, handbags and shoes are all great ways to add personality
  • What about the style of your suit, dress, trousers – more formal clothing does not have to be boring! Colour and quirky touches of style can make so much difference.

3. What colours do you wear to work? What do these say about you?

  • Black can say authoritative or it could say boring – blending into the background. It depends how you wear it and what colurs you wear with it. Try navy as an alternative, it is a much better colour for communication.
  • Using colours which look good on you, those that work with your skin tone is important for your confidence and the impression you make on others.

4. Be confident in what you wear, know that it works for you.

  • Know the things to avoid – if a neckline feels too low, it probably is!
  • Choose styles which work well with your body shape, so you are not worrying about those areas of your body you don’t like so much.

5. ALWAYS – make sure you are well groomed!

  • Does your hairstyle work? Does it reflect your style, but not get in your way causing you to have to adjust it constantly? Never  scrape it back into a pony tail because you haven’t had time to wash it!
  • Are you nails well manicured? Nail polish will add that final finishing touch, but it is not for everyone
  • Do your clothes fit well? Not so tight that it causes  pulling, gaping buttons or crease lines to appear around the waist or tops of legs. Not so baggy that your clothes disguise your shape and you end up looking like you are lost somewhere inside.
  • Are you wearing makeup? A little will enhance your look – too much will detract. Lipstick if you wear it will complete the look.

Personal confidence and self esteem come from knowing you are great at what you do and begin certain that you can always create a strong and personable impact.

Dress for who you are and what you want to achieve and make the impact you want!

‘I thoroughly enjoyed working with Sandra, she understood my boundaries instinctively and worked within these. The results have been brilliant, and I have received a number of comments in a short space of time. I have already recommended Sandra and will continue to do so’.

Katie – Financial Director

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Back to work with confidence & style!

It is now many years ago for me and yet I can still remember that feeling in my stomach when I realised it was time for me to re-enter the job market after having been at home for a number of years with my children.

What could I possibly do now? I had lost all my work skills hadn’t I? On top of that, I looked and felt like a ‘Mum’ in my eyes, my wardrobe had been reduced to mainly jeans, casual skirts and tops – oh yes I did have a suit in there somewhere, but it was now about 5 years out of date and to be honest a little tight in certain places!

I could now look after children – reasonably well, but not sure I could compete in the work place. However, what I didn’t think about was all those skills I had had to learn being a mum and how they could quite easily be transferred to the work place.

Organisation – the logistics of getting children to school, on to clubs, juggling housework, cooking and being there for your other half, takes some organising!

Listening – as a mum being a great listener is something we all do and take for granted

Negotiating – well that is obviously a key skill – bedtime, eating dinner, getting homework done, and much more all take negotiation skills.

Mentoring and Coaching – finding the best way to teach, advise, and guide!

Creativity – thinking of new ways to get things done, fabulous craft work with the children, maybe you have even got involved in some interior design in your home.

These are just five skills off the top of my head that so many mums have cultivated and use daily without even thinking about it. With  at times a little adaption and maybe in some areas a bit more training these skills are great assets in the work place.

As for your wardrobe – a little colour & style advice, a trip to the shops (you don’t have to spend a fortune) and you are back on track! Have you seen my tips over the last few weeks? Here is a summary!

  • Find time to clear out your wardrobe – throw away things which are no longer working for you
  • Understand how you want to be seen – what is your style and body shape
  • Think about where you want to work – what clothes would work best?
  • If the dress code is business casual, think about buying some great basics, then mix and match, personalise with accessories
  • For a more formal environment – invest on one great suit, if possible with both a skirt and trousers, then you can buy slightly less expensive tops to vary the look. You can also add your personality to this look with great jewellery.
  • Remember, great grooming is essential – you can have the most amazing outfit, but if your hair is a mess, you have bitten down nails and no make up or if your clothes are creased, have marks on them or don’t fit well – all your efforts will be in vain!
  • So to have time to ensure you can go out the door looking fab – organise your time. Decide what you will be wearing the next morning – including shoes, jewellery and make up and have it all set out ready.
  • And I make no apologies for mentioning this again – make sure your wardrobe is orgainsed! Make sure that only the clothes you are currently using are in the cupboard and if possible arrange to reflect your lifestyle – if nothing else, put work outfits together for easy access!

If you would like some help with any of these areas, Book a session with me now – 07742 445243! You can do most of this yourself, but my clients tell me that it is so much easier – and more fun with some professional guidance!

 

Personal Success & Appearance

Personal appearance has significant impact. When you get right, it will not only work visually for those you meet, but also inject that extra confidence helping you to deliver your very best.

In these difficult economic times what gives you the edge over competitors in business or in securing that new job? People buy people not CV’s and certificates, that extra edge is often about which of two great candidates will fit best with the company who is looking to employ them. So what does ‘Fitting in’ mean? It is all about the soft skills:

•How and who you are as a person
•Your mind set
•Your approach
•Your physical appearance

If we expand on physical appearance, it is about that all important first meeting with a prospective employer or new client; we all know the saying ‘You never get a second chance to make a first impression’ and it is so true!

When you prepare for an interview or indeed to meet a client for the first time, you will probably research areas such as, what the company does, how they do it, what their markets are and may look into the culture and values. How often do you spend time researching how you should present yourself personally? For most it is a question of pulling out the interview/meeting suit or outfit and off we go – will this work? Well sometimes, yes, but what if it doesn’t?

What if when looking at the culture you did notice that the dress code was business casual – what does that mean? This form of dress is very much open to interpretation, meaning different standards in different places.

Peter Landau talks about the concept of ‘Intelligent Dressing™’. Having completed seven years of research Peter’s findings suggest that the more research, thought and analysis that goes into personal appearance, the greater the personal success.

When you get it right, it will not only work visually for those you meet, but also inject that extra confidence in you to deliver your very best on the day!

If you need guidance and support to help you make that great visual impression it may be useful to think about using an image coach.

Give me a call on 07742 445243 for more information on how you can make that all important positive impression!

www.Totally-You-Consulting.co.uk

 

A positive 2013!

It’s January, Christmas is over another year is just starting and although I want to feel energised and full of enthusiasm for 2013, it’s not easy. Where do you find the get up and go? What will make that key difference to help spark the positivity and start to make things happen?

I know that if I allow myself to feel sluggish and hide away in my study, playing with social media and hoping that miraculously loads of business is going to come flooding my way, then 2013 is going to be a very unproductive and depressing year!

Drawing in your strengths, if you have a clear idea of what they are is the key to getting started. I know that I am best talking to people face to face as I am passionate about what I do. I do however need to have some focus when I speak to people so today I am going to focus on:

1. Who my customers will be for the next year.

2. What they want or need from me

3. How I am going to contact them

4. How I am going to let them know, what I can offer and why they will get great value working with me.

I am then going to spend some time organising my wardrobe for the new year, so that I can get out there looking and feeling great with the confidence to network with inspirational people and continue to build my business working with individuals and business teams, helping them to focus on how they spark their positivity and start to make things happen!

What are your strengths? How can you make things happen?

Do you want to make 2013 the most positive year you have ever had?

If the answer is yes, then take your key strength and use that to kick start your year!  Wishing you an amazing, productive and successful 2013!

 

 

A New Chapter as a Working Mum – How is your wardrobe?

Fantastic, you have landed yourself a great job hurray!

Now the fun starts! Getting the children and yourself ready in time to get out the door in the morning can be a nightmare, so what can you do to make life a little easier?

I know many working mums who tell me how they prepare lunch boxes the night before, get the school kit laid out for the next morning, make sure that the reading book is back in the school bag and that they have that thing they need for the nature table or whatever special extra is needed for the next day. Great! So organised everything is all set up for a speedy exit to school and work isn’t it?

Well may be for the children, but what about you? In all the busy organisation, the mums I speak to often forget about themselves and throw on the first things that come out of their wardrobe – no time for make up or making sure the shoes match the outfit. Does this sound familiar?

How about taking some time at the weekend or in an evening when someone else can look after the children to really organise your wardrobe?

Here’s how:

  1.  Firstly have a think about you life style as it is now? How much time do you spend on each area of your life? Does your wardrobe reflect this? For example, if you now spend 25% of your time at work, does your wardrobe contain 25% work clothes?
  2.  Now take everything out and look at every garment. Ask yourself is this really something I still want in my wardrobe? Does it fit? When did I last wear it? If it shouldn’t be there bin it!
  3.  Then when you start to put things back in divide them up to reflect the areas of your life – work clothes, at home comfortable, occasional night out, social with friends etc. Some will over lap, but if you struggle make sure the one area you do segment is your work clothes –it will save you so much time.
  4.  With your work clothes put outfits together, so you can quickly select what you need each morning, making sure that work shoes are accessible and any jewellery you like to wear with an outfit is easily found. Jewellery hooks inside the wardrobe door work well.
  5.  When your wardrobe is organised the final thing to do to make life easier is to ensure you decide the night before what you want to wear and hang it on the outside of your wardrobe.

If you have done all this you may even find time to put some make up on and calmly walk out of the door to school – well maybe!

If you could still do with a little more guidance, why not come along to our Mum 2 Me Workshop where you will get some great ideas and my wardrobe de-cluttering tool.  Book Today! Only £25!

 Alternatively if you would like a one to one session give me a call on 07742 445243

Mum 2 Me the next instalment

Being a mum is great! Well most of the time!

We mums do however tend to spend so much of our time thinking about the family, that we often forget that we are important too.

I remember when my children were small, how little time I had to think about what I was going to wear that day – well, what did it matter anyway the baby would probably be sick over my shoulder within an hour and I would either have to live with it or change!

My wardrobe became a practical jeans and T shirt or at best easy to wear summer dress and shorts area. I no longer wore heels – far to difficult to run after a toddler in.

Then I thought about going back to work. Oh dear! What could I wear? It still needed to be practical as the school or nursery run needed to be done too. I really wish I had known then what I know now about how to dress successfully for me in my own personal situation.

I hope these few tips will help any mums struggling with some of these dilemmas.

  • Before you buy any new clothes – check what you actually do have.
    • Does it fit?
    • Is it in good condition?
    • Do you like it?
  • What is your body shape?
    • Chose something which compliments your figure – showing off the bit you like most and disguising the others
  • Think about how you want or need to look
    • What style of clothes will give you that look?
  • Don’t spend lots of money
    • At first just buy some great basics – trousers/ skirts etc and a number of tops you can interchange (Take a spare with you if you are still at the baby sick stage!)
    • Try and avoid black if you can!
  • Organise your wardrobe
    • You can then quickly and easily find things that work together to make a great outfit
  • Finally remember to accessorise
    • A colourful scarf or striking necklace can add great personality and colour to any outfit.

If you feel you would like some more help or advice, please give me a call on 07742 445243

Want a real confidence boost? Take  look at our Mum 2 Me Workshop on 14th June 2012 http://totally-you-consulting.co.uk/workshops-events/

 

From Mum 2 Me

 

It is now many years ago for me and yet I can still remember that feeling in my stomach when I realised it was time for me to re-enter the job market after having been at home for a number of years with my children.

What could I possibly do now? I had lost all my work skills hadn’t I? On top of that, I looked and felt like a ‘Mum’ in my eyes, my wardrobe had been reduced to mainly jeans, casual skirts and tops – oh yes I did have a suit in there somewhere, but it was now about 5 years out of date and to be honest a little tight in certain places!

I could now look after children – reasonably well, but not sure I could compete in the work place. However, what I didn’t think about was all those skills I had had to learn being a mum and how they could quite easily be transferred to the work place.

Organisation – the logistics of getting children to school, on to clubs, juggling housework, cooking and being there for your other half, takes some organising!

Listening – as a mum being a great listener is something we all do and take for granted

Negotiating – well that is obviously a key skill – bedtime, eating dinner, getting homework done, and much more all take negotiation skills.

Mentoring and Coaching – finding the best way to teach, advise, and guide!

Creativity – thinking of new ways to get things done, fabulous craft work with the children, maybe you have even got involved in some interior design in your home.

These are just five skills off the top of my head that so many mums have cultivated and use daily without even thinking about it. With  at times a little adaption and maybe in some areas a bit more training these skills are great assets in the work place.

As for your wardrobe – a little colour & style advice, a trip to the shops (you don’t have to spend a fortune) and you are back on track!

If you feel you would like a little help take a look at the Mum 2 Me workshop on my workshops and events page, it may be just what you need to get you thinking positively about your return to work. http://totally-you-consulting.co.uk/sample-page/workshops-events/

Good luck with your return to work and your journey from Mum 2 Me!

 

 

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