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Does Your Personality Shine Through Your Style?

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Have you ever walked into a room and noticed someone who looks like a vibrant out going person only to be surprised when you speak to them and find it difficult to engage them  in conversation? Or perhaps you have approached a very subdued looking individual and then found they are bubbly and expressive.

Whether it’s consciously or unconsciously we tend to make an initial judgement on others in the room by what we see and engage in conversation with that thought in mind.

Considering our personal style when dressing can really help to ensure that we are encouraging an approach from others that we are comfortable with and results in great communication.

So if you are naturally quiet and introverted- dressing in elegant, sophisticated styles and wearing more muted but beautifully put together colours will encourage a more questioning, calmer approach.

For those who enjoy an enthusiastic and outgoing encounter, wearing a stronger look in contrasting and more vibrant colours – perhaps including some quirkiness in style will draw in the communication that works with your personality.

So many of use think a lot about what we say and often forget the impact of how we look!

Back to work with confidence & style!

It is now many years ago for me and yet I can still remember that feeling in my stomach when I realised it was time for me to re-enter the job market after having been at home for a number of years with my children.

What could I possibly do now? I had lost all my work skills hadn’t I? On top of that, I looked and felt like a ‘Mum’ in my eyes, my wardrobe had been reduced to mainly jeans, casual skirts and tops – oh yes I did have a suit in there somewhere, but it was now about 5 years out of date and to be honest a little tight in certain places!

I could now look after children – reasonably well, but not sure I could compete in the work place. However, what I didn’t think about was all those skills I had had to learn being a mum and how they could quite easily be transferred to the work place.

Organisation – the logistics of getting children to school, on to clubs, juggling housework, cooking and being there for your other half, takes some organising!

Listening – as a mum being a great listener is something we all do and take for granted

Negotiating – well that is obviously a key skill – bedtime, eating dinner, getting homework done, and much more all take negotiation skills.

Mentoring and Coaching – finding the best way to teach, advise, and guide!

Creativity – thinking of new ways to get things done, fabulous craft work with the children, maybe you have even got involved in some interior design in your home.

These are just five skills off the top of my head that so many mums have cultivated and use daily without even thinking about it. With  at times a little adaption and maybe in some areas a bit more training these skills are great assets in the work place.

As for your wardrobe – a little colour & style advice, a trip to the shops (you don’t have to spend a fortune) and you are back on track! Have you seen my tips over the last few weeks? Here is a summary!

  • Find time to clear out your wardrobe – throw away things which are no longer working for you
  • Understand how you want to be seen – what is your style and body shape
  • Think about where you want to work – what clothes would work best?
  • If the dress code is business casual, think about buying some great basics, then mix and match, personalise with accessories
  • For a more formal environment – invest on one great suit, if possible with both a skirt and trousers, then you can buy slightly less expensive tops to vary the look. You can also add your personality to this look with great jewellery.
  • Remember, great grooming is essential – you can have the most amazing outfit, but if your hair is a mess, you have bitten down nails and no make up or if your clothes are creased, have marks on them or don’t fit well – all your efforts will be in vain!
  • So to have time to ensure you can go out the door looking fab – organise your time. Decide what you will be wearing the next morning – including shoes, jewellery and make up and have it all set out ready.
  • And I make no apologies for mentioning this again – make sure your wardrobe is orgainsed! Make sure that only the clothes you are currently using are in the cupboard and if possible arrange to reflect your lifestyle – if nothing else, put work outfits together for easy access!

If you would like some help with any of these areas, Book a session with me now – 07742 445243! You can do most of this yourself, but my clients tell me that it is so much easier – and more fun with some professional guidance!

 

Personal Success & Appearance

Personal appearance has significant impact. When you get right, it will not only work visually for those you meet, but also inject that extra confidence helping you to deliver your very best.

In these difficult economic times what gives you the edge over competitors in business or in securing that new job? People buy people not CV’s and certificates, that extra edge is often about which of two great candidates will fit best with the company who is looking to employ them. So what does ‘Fitting in’ mean? It is all about the soft skills:

•How and who you are as a person
•Your mind set
•Your approach
•Your physical appearance

If we expand on physical appearance, it is about that all important first meeting with a prospective employer or new client; we all know the saying ‘You never get a second chance to make a first impression’ and it is so true!

When you prepare for an interview or indeed to meet a client for the first time, you will probably research areas such as, what the company does, how they do it, what their markets are and may look into the culture and values. How often do you spend time researching how you should present yourself personally? For most it is a question of pulling out the interview/meeting suit or outfit and off we go – will this work? Well sometimes, yes, but what if it doesn’t?

What if when looking at the culture you did notice that the dress code was business casual – what does that mean? This form of dress is very much open to interpretation, meaning different standards in different places.

Peter Landau talks about the concept of ‘Intelligent Dressing™’. Having completed seven years of research Peter’s findings suggest that the more research, thought and analysis that goes into personal appearance, the greater the personal success.

When you get it right, it will not only work visually for those you meet, but also inject that extra confidence in you to deliver your very best on the day!

If you need guidance and support to help you make that great visual impression it may be useful to think about using an image coach.

Give me a call on 07742 445243 for more information on how you can make that all important positive impression!

www.Totally-You-Consulting.co.uk

 

Colour is Powerful!

Colour can help you look healthier, younger, more approachable, more assertive, creative or professional; it can make your skin glow and your eyes sparkle, if you know how!

Colour can also make you look drained, showing up the lines and shadows on your face. It can give out the wrong messages psychologically – disguising your creative personality or portraying a strong authoritative impression (when you don’t intend it to) triggering a defensive response from those you wish to influence.

So how can you ensure colour works positively for you? Two ways:

  1.  Know what colours work with your skin tone, so that you can look and feel great.
  2. Understand just a little about the psychological impact colours have on those you wish to communicate with.

Colours & Skin Tone

Wearing colours that work well with your skin tone can make a significant difference to your appearance; building your confidence and making you feel great! So finding out what works best for you is a fun and very useful thing to invest in.  You can then choose clothes and accessories that really work for you!

Determining Skin Tone

 This can be quite tricky and professional help is a good way to ensure you have got it right; however here are a few general tips:

 

Cool Skin Tone

If you have a cool skin tone you will see:

  •  Pinkish or rosy undertones to the skin
  • Olive or black skin with a blue undertone
  • Brown/hazel/blue or green eyes
  • Softer greys or softer less determined eye colour
  • Black, dark brown, platinum blonde, light or mid brown, blue grey natural hair colour
  • Yellow based colours will give a sallow appearance to the face
  • The colour silver will brighten the face

Notable examples are: Sarah Jessica Parker, Sandra Bullock, Courtney Cox, and Jennifer Aniston.

So we know that the above cool colours work for our cool skin tone and that when combined in our accessories and jewellery with clear or antique silver, they will look amazing.

    

Warm Skin Tone

If you have a warm skin tone you will see:

  • Yellow based ivory, peach or golden undertones to the skin
  • Black skin with yellow undertones
  • Bright green, turquoise blue or golden brown eyes
  • Red, strawberry blonde, brown with reddish tint, chestnut, golden brown, natural hair colour
  • Blue based colours will drain the face
  • The colour gold will brighten the face

Notable examples are: Gwyneth Paltrow, Sarah Ferguson, and Nicole Kidman

The great warm colours above will work for those with a yellow undertone to your skin and your accessories will include jewellery with clear or antique gold.

 

Colour Psychology

 The final piece to the puzzle is the possible psychological impact the colours we are wearing are having on those we wish to communicate with.

Here is a little taster of the messages colour can give:

Approachable – soft or warm colours like pastel pinks, pastel blue, coral, tan or terracotta

Assertive – Strong contrasts – black or navy with bright reds or purples – Take care here!

Authoritative – Dark tones with very light tones (uniforms)

Creative – Warm/bright colours worn in unusual or unexpected colour combinations

Sensitive – Purple/violet/lavender –can be used to soften a hard look

So if you know what colour works for you and the impact it has on others, how confident will that make you feel and how successful could that make you both in business and in your social interaction?

 

If you want to know more about how to discover what colours can really work for you, give me or call on 07742 445243 or email me at Totallyyou@live.co.uk for a free no obligations initial consultation.

A positive 2013!

It’s January, Christmas is over another year is just starting and although I want to feel energised and full of enthusiasm for 2013, it’s not easy. Where do you find the get up and go? What will make that key difference to help spark the positivity and start to make things happen?

I know that if I allow myself to feel sluggish and hide away in my study, playing with social media and hoping that miraculously loads of business is going to come flooding my way, then 2013 is going to be a very unproductive and depressing year!

Drawing in your strengths, if you have a clear idea of what they are is the key to getting started. I know that I am best talking to people face to face as I am passionate about what I do. I do however need to have some focus when I speak to people so today I am going to focus on:

1. Who my customers will be for the next year.

2. What they want or need from me

3. How I am going to contact them

4. How I am going to let them know, what I can offer and why they will get great value working with me.

I am then going to spend some time organising my wardrobe for the new year, so that I can get out there looking and feeling great with the confidence to network with inspirational people and continue to build my business working with individuals and business teams, helping them to focus on how they spark their positivity and start to make things happen!

What are your strengths? How can you make things happen?

Do you want to make 2013 the most positive year you have ever had?

If the answer is yes, then take your key strength and use that to kick start your year!  Wishing you an amazing, productive and successful 2013!

 

 

A New Chapter as a Working Mum – How is your wardrobe?

Fantastic, you have landed yourself a great job hurray!

Now the fun starts! Getting the children and yourself ready in time to get out the door in the morning can be a nightmare, so what can you do to make life a little easier?

I know many working mums who tell me how they prepare lunch boxes the night before, get the school kit laid out for the next morning, make sure that the reading book is back in the school bag and that they have that thing they need for the nature table or whatever special extra is needed for the next day. Great! So organised everything is all set up for a speedy exit to school and work isn’t it?

Well may be for the children, but what about you? In all the busy organisation, the mums I speak to often forget about themselves and throw on the first things that come out of their wardrobe – no time for make up or making sure the shoes match the outfit. Does this sound familiar?

How about taking some time at the weekend or in an evening when someone else can look after the children to really organise your wardrobe?

Here’s how:

  1.  Firstly have a think about you life style as it is now? How much time do you spend on each area of your life? Does your wardrobe reflect this? For example, if you now spend 25% of your time at work, does your wardrobe contain 25% work clothes?
  2.  Now take everything out and look at every garment. Ask yourself is this really something I still want in my wardrobe? Does it fit? When did I last wear it? If it shouldn’t be there bin it!
  3.  Then when you start to put things back in divide them up to reflect the areas of your life – work clothes, at home comfortable, occasional night out, social with friends etc. Some will over lap, but if you struggle make sure the one area you do segment is your work clothes –it will save you so much time.
  4.  With your work clothes put outfits together, so you can quickly select what you need each morning, making sure that work shoes are accessible and any jewellery you like to wear with an outfit is easily found. Jewellery hooks inside the wardrobe door work well.
  5.  When your wardrobe is organised the final thing to do to make life easier is to ensure you decide the night before what you want to wear and hang it on the outside of your wardrobe.

If you have done all this you may even find time to put some make up on and calmly walk out of the door to school – well maybe!

If you could still do with a little more guidance, why not come along to our Mum 2 Me Workshop where you will get some great ideas and my wardrobe de-cluttering tool.  Book Today! Only £25!

 Alternatively if you would like a one to one session give me a call on 07742 445243

Back to Work Mum – Dressing for Interviews

You have decided that now is the time to return to work. May be you have been at home with your children for a few years and become used to a very relaxed way of dressing.

Is your wardrobe full of casual clothes which are great for what you do now, but maybe not so much for the work place?

Well the first step is probably the interview, so what do you wear?

 Here are a few hints and tips:

 

  1. Take time to find out what dress code is expected at the company where you have your interview.
    1. If you are not sure and can’t find any hints online, then call the person on reception if there is one, they are always great for inside information.
  2. If the dress code is for example business casual – always think about dressing just slightly smarter. Not over the top, but just enough to show that you have made a special effort.
  3. If you are going to a professional, formal company, comply with their expectations and add just a subtle touch of your personality – either with colour or accessories
  4. If you have chosen to wear a dress or a skirt – always wear tights – even if it is summer!
  5. Never be tempted to dress extremely casually even if their dress code is normally casual. Don’t ever go in jeans!
  6. Finally grooming is everything! Well groomed hair, an appropriate amount of make up (yes it is best to wear makeup even a small touch makes a big difference), a touch of perfume – never over powering, clean shoes, an appropriate bag to carry your personal belongings plus any paperwork required. Never use a plastic carrier or similar!

The key is to ensure you fit in with the potential employer’s expectations and stand out enough to show your personality, which may win you the job over the next person.

Remember that if you feel good it will add to your confidence and then you are much more likely to have a good interview.

If you feel you would like a few more tips and a chance to talk to other mums who are in the same situation as you, why not pop along to our Mum 2 Me Workshop on 4th October 2012 in Ewell Surrey – some great support and tips, plus refreshments and tools to help you re-build your personal and wardrobe confidence. All for just £25!

Give me a call on 07742 445243 to book your place NOW!

Ask about individual sessions too!

I’m a MUM! Why am I going back to work?

Great question! What do I want from working? For some it is all about continuing with a career that is fulfilling and probably something you have worked for, for a long time.

For others it may be about the necessity to work to support the household finances, or maybe you have been at home for some time and now feel you want to rediscover yourself, do something that will get you out of the house and make you feel like an adult again!

What ever your reason for heading back into the world of work, confidence plays a huge part, rebuilding your self esteem, remembering that you have some great skills to put into practice and getting up the courage to face possible interviews or maybe finding and engaging clients if you decide to work for yourself.

Part of feeling confident to face these challenges is about how we see ourselves and how we dress to face the world. It is important to understand the environment into which you are heading and to fit in enough to be accepted and to stand out enough to be noticed if you want to progress.

So here are some ideas:

Going back to an established career with the same employer

You will most likely know and understand the dress code, it is just about ensuring to dress well for your present circumstances as well as for work.

One tip – if you are buying new, and have young children remember to consider the fabric – is it washable?? Does it crease easily – if so avoid if at all possible! What colour is it, will it show all the marks? (Baby sick!) It is quite a difficult balance to make it work well!

Looking for a new job where the dress code is business casual

Three key points! Keep it simple, keep the basics neutral and add the interest and colour with appropriate accessories.

Great fitting clothes make all the difference, so don’t make do with something you have if it no longer fits well!

The higher end of fashion and the lower end of comfortable are best kept for outside the office and jeans are often off limits. You can still add your personality with a few well chosen accessories. Neutral colours give a great back drop to a well chosen scarf or necklace.

When choosing your accessories, you can reflect your personality through colour and style, but remember you are still in a professional environment.

Remember to reflect your personality in your clothes!

 Whoever you work for and especially if you work for yourself, it is always important to feel comfortable with your style as this really adds to your confidence. If you are working in a very formal environment and you have an artistic or very feminine personality, add subtle touches to show you personality – these can be added by the use of colour or perhaps the style of your dress or suit.

Need some more help?

 Give me a call on 07742 445243 or take a look at the Mum 2 Me workshop 

Individual one to one sessions available if preferred

Are you a mum? Time to return to the World of Work?

Are you thinking about returning to work after sometime at home looking after your children?

Whether it has only been a few months or 10 years, there is always that slight anxiety about returning to the work place. Going back to your old job may sound easy enough, but change seems to happen so fast! I can remember working term time only when my children were little and going back after just a six week break in the summer its was quite daunting – something had always changed – not least being the place where I sat, it was a question of hunt your desk each time! It’s also amazing how quickly systems and ways of working can change.

Re-building your confidence to venture back into the world of work, for some, is a bit of a challenge and how your feel about yourself and how you look can have a big impact. Confidence levels can drop even in a short time.

Being at home with children can also radically change your wardrobe! Jeans and T-shirts often become the order of the day and re-discovering your style for who you are now can seem a bit of a struggle.

Maybe you have only been off during your pregnancy and for six to twelve months maternity leave, but that means you have not used a normal ‘work’ wardrobe for up to 18 months and possibly longer.

Do your old work clothes still fit?

Do they still represent who you are?

If you are not going back to the same job, are they still appropriate?

Are they practical – you are still a mum and may have the school run to do before and after work?

If you feel great about yourself you are much more likely to secure a new job or cope well with your return and any changes in your old role, so why not spend a little time thinking about what you need to do to re-discover your style for the person you are now?

Try these few tips:

  •  Find time to sort out your wardrobe – try things on and throw out anything that no longer fits or works for you.
  • Think about the work environment you are going into and see what you have that will fit in with the dress code/culture
  • Take time to think about your personality, what style you love and the practicalities of life.
  • What is your body shape? How will you idea of style work well with your shape. Believe me it can work, you just need to   find the right places to shop and know a little about how best to dress your shape!

If you feel you could use a little help take a look at this workshop http://totally-you-consulting.co.uk/workshops-events/ alternatively give me a call on 07742 445243 for information about individual or group sessions

Mum 2 Me the next instalment

Being a mum is great! Well most of the time!

We mums do however tend to spend so much of our time thinking about the family, that we often forget that we are important too.

I remember when my children were small, how little time I had to think about what I was going to wear that day – well, what did it matter anyway the baby would probably be sick over my shoulder within an hour and I would either have to live with it or change!

My wardrobe became a practical jeans and T shirt or at best easy to wear summer dress and shorts area. I no longer wore heels – far to difficult to run after a toddler in.

Then I thought about going back to work. Oh dear! What could I wear? It still needed to be practical as the school or nursery run needed to be done too. I really wish I had known then what I know now about how to dress successfully for me in my own personal situation.

I hope these few tips will help any mums struggling with some of these dilemmas.

  • Before you buy any new clothes – check what you actually do have.
    • Does it fit?
    • Is it in good condition?
    • Do you like it?
  • What is your body shape?
    • Chose something which compliments your figure – showing off the bit you like most and disguising the others
  • Think about how you want or need to look
    • What style of clothes will give you that look?
  • Don’t spend lots of money
    • At first just buy some great basics – trousers/ skirts etc and a number of tops you can interchange (Take a spare with you if you are still at the baby sick stage!)
    • Try and avoid black if you can!
  • Organise your wardrobe
    • You can then quickly and easily find things that work together to make a great outfit
  • Finally remember to accessorise
    • A colourful scarf or striking necklace can add great personality and colour to any outfit.

If you feel you would like some more help or advice, please give me a call on 07742 445243

Want a real confidence boost? Take  look at our Mum 2 Me Workshop on 14th June 2012 http://totally-you-consulting.co.uk/workshops-events/

 

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