Confidence

A-Z of Dressing for Success – Letter ‘C’

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Colour

Cool & Warm Colours 

This is a big one! Colour can make a huge difference to the impression you create. It needs to be appropriate to your environment, but that doesn’t mean it needs to be boring.
Black and a very light colour including white is a very authoritative combination and can cause others to become defensive if not worn with care. However if you combine black with a more striking colour (if your skin tone allows this – it can overwhelm some people) it becomes interesting, whilst still being powerful.
A more approachable business colour is navy, especially when combined with a medium strength pastel. This encourages good communication.
Red is a great colour to draw attention and can look dynamic worn the the right way. If you have a strong natural personality, wear red in small quantities.
Take care with colours such as lime green, orange or yellow as they can be perceived as frivolous in the workplace. If you love these colours and they express your personality, consider adding them in small doses or in your accessories as you can remove these easily if you need to quickly change your look.

 

 

 

Confidence

ConfidenceKnowing your style and the colours that work for you can add to your personal confidence. If you know you look good you can forget about what you are wearing and concentrate on doing what you do best!

 

 

 

Comfort

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In the context of clothes which compliment who you are, this is important. However, don’t let comfort become sloppy as comfort over style can cause you to fall short when making a strong positive impact.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

How do you use colour in your wardrobe? How confident are you of your look? Using colour and style to boost your confidence really works!

A-Z of Dressing for Success – Letter B

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Brand

 

Personal Branding on Multicolor Puzzle. In business having a personal brand, which helps you stand out from your competitors, ensures you are remembered. Does what you wear make sense with how you want your business to be seen? Don’t be memorable for looking like you don’t care!
You are your business and people buy from people, remember – make your appearance a key part of your conscious self-marketing.

 

 

 

Body Shape

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It can truly make a difference to how your clothes look for both men and women. Wearing styles which may look great on a friend, but really don’t work for your physical shape can make you look, larger, smaller and often untidy and uncomfortable.
For women, it is about showing off your very best bits and playing down those areas you don’t like so much.

If you would like to understand your body shape, send me an email and I will forward you a FREE body shape analysis hand out.
For men, it helps to wear jackets and trousers that are the right length and cut for you. Whether you wear trousers with one, two or no waist pleats can improve your line.

Develop your own personal brand, using your own unique personality together with styles and colours which really show who you are and how you would like others to see you. I offer a variety of sessions which can help you find out what will be just right for you and help you Dress for Success.

Call now on 07742 445243

 

A – Z of Dressing for Success – Letter A

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Appearance

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It may not be fair, but it is absolutely true, there are no second chances to make a great first impression. The way you look can be the decider when it comes to moving up the career ladder, getting a new job or meeting a new client. It also counts when making a great social impression. What we wear really does matter – make it part of your conscious self-marketing!

 

Adapt

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Know your own style, wear it well and always adapt just enough to meet the expectations of your client, the culture of the company you work for or the social occasion you are attending – be a ‘Chameleon with Style’!

Accessories

For women, you can add jewellery, scarves, belts, bags etc. to really enhance an outfit. Accessories ensure you are able to wear the same outfit to the same place again and again and it will look different every time. They lift a less expensive outfit and add colour to a neutral outfit.
For men it is all about a good watch, a quality belt (belts should always be worn if you have belt loops!) cuff links etc.
For both men and women, always use a good quality pen and use a stylish folder or neat pad for writing notes! Avoid scraps of paper, throw away pens and worst of all – plastic carrier bags or tatty ruck sacks!

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Look out for the letter ‘B’ coming soon!

That Certain Age!

Shoot photo crop     Why is it, when we reach a ‘certain’ age, we start to believe that we have to be conservative in the way we dress?

I recently worked with an amazing lady, who, despite being on the plus side of 55, runs her own highly successful business and has an amazing personal style. Her energy and personailty always seem to shine through!

However, even she had reached a bit of a sticking point with her wardrobe. She had just lost a huge amount of weight and had to take a totally new look at what she was wearing.

Although she had done her colour analysis some years ago, she was of the belief that the colours which suited her were a little boring…she did not think the same way after our shopping trip!!

We took a fresh look at her colours, talked about her body shape and then hit the shops!

We discovered that by using personality together with beautiful colour combinations and the best styles for her shape, we could create and amazing unique and quirky look, which worked so well for her.

How you look is not about age, it’s about personal confidence and getting the right look for who you are NOW!

Get that amazing feeling of confidence and clarity about your wardrobe - give me a call on 07 742 445243 for a FREE initial 30 min chat about your style and confidence or email me at Totallyyou@live.co.uk to book a session!

 

 

You are Your Business!

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Do you know how your potential clients see you?

Who you are has a huge impact on how you do business and how you communicate and build relationships with your customers whether you work for yourself or a part of a large organisation. It is therefore vitally important that you explore and discover clear ideas for how you want to present yourself, using your natural strengths and personality, in your business and learn key tips to ensure that you are doing this in a way that will promote and grow your business or career.

Some questions you might ask yourself are:

  • What impact do I make on new clients? What 1st impression are they left with?
  • What are my natural strengths – how can I use these my in business/career?
  • How conscious, consistent and coherent is my image in my business/career?
  • Do people know what to expect when they deal with me?
  • How well does my business align to my values?
  • If someone was promoting me as a business person, what would they say about me? Is this what I want them to say?

If you own a business where you employ others – you might also want to ask these same questions about the impact they make for you in your business.

 

If you are an individual building your own business or career, an SMEs  or a larger organisation, coaching or bespoke development programmes specialising in getting the right message to your clients through personal presentation and focused communication can be the answer to motivation and business growth.

We can explore your own or your employee’s natural style through profiling, coaching and team development, building trust and confidence to utilise strengths and identify challenges which can be addressed and for which solutions can be put in place.

Want to know more? Give me a call!07742 445243

 

What is success?

What is success?

Success is doing something you love, which gives you satisfaction, fun and in business, the income you need to achieve to live the life you are happy to lead.

How can you get there?

 

  •  Through knowing yourself well enough to use your talents wisely.
  •  Having a self-belief, which allows you to be confident – you are great and unique!
  •  Engaging others authentically whilst adapting to their expectations and needs
  •  Focusing on what you love doing and not getting tied up with what others want you to do
  •  Knowing what success looks like for you and going for it
  •  And of course putting the time in to get there!

 

Yes it is that simple, but not always that easy! Sometimes we need to take a step back and look at who we are, why we are doing what we are doing and what we really want from our lives, business or career.

We often think we know ourselves really well, but may be seeing learned behaviours – things which, yes we do well, but can often drain us of energy.  If we know more about our natural strengths, those things which, when we are doing them, life seems to zip by, we have a great day and the sense of achievement is amazing – and we do these more often, then success will be just that bit closer!

There will course then be gaps and challenges for us, but recognising and acknowledging these will give us the opportunity to tackle them more effectively.

When we know who we are, allow our thinking processes to follow a natural path and present ourselves to others from this perspective, confidence will grow and success will follow.

Do you know who you are? See if you can identify your natural strength

Eight Profiles – Your Natural Strength & Style

 

 

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What is ‘Brand You’

Would you be able to describe your brand (that is – who you are and what you are about) to a future employer or a new client? If you don’t know who you are and how you want to be seen how can others make the right assessment of you?

Do you know how you are perceived by others? Have you asked?

When we meet people for the first time, as much as we would like to deny it, they will make a judgement and that will happen within the first 7 – 30 seconds – how much time does that give you to tell them about yourself? First impressions are critical, you are marketing a product – YOU!

Think about how you want to be seen.

  1.  Do you know your personality type? Knowing this will not put you in a ‘box’ it will give you the tools to work with your strengths. Do you tend towards introversion? If so how can you use this thoughtful approach? If you are more extrovert, how can you use your great communication to best advantage without over whelming?
  2. What are your strengths? Are you happiest when able to use your creativity, explore new ideas and look at developing new products or are you a great relationship builder, loving to network and build trust with future prospective clients. Maybe you’re at your best when developing a business plan, organising an event or possibly working with budgets and numbers makes your day feel really satisfying.
  3. Do you make the most of your strengths dedicating a higher proportion of your time to areas where your feel you can really have an impact?
  4.  Do you know your personal values? If you understand what really matters to you it will help you choose the right career and look for the most suitable employers for you. If you are running your own business this understanding will help you focus on the clients you want to work with and those who will get the most from your business.
  5. Have you really considered carefully how you dress? What does what you wear say about you? There is a chance, if we all dress in dark suits white shirts and for men sober ties we become clones and loose our personal impact. In the current market you need to fit in enough to be accepted and stand out enough to have that extra edge!
  6. Does your personal presentation reflect your own unique style and personality, allowing for adaptions to meet client expectations?

 

The best approach would be to research the dress code of the organisation or       client you are meeting. Then dress one step up from their everyday dress code. This will ensure that you fit in, but also show that you have made an effort. Don’t forget that it is important to retain you own personal style as well, this can be done through colour – subtle style elements to your clothes or by the accessories you choose. You can express your personality through your style!

Lastly on the appearance front – grooming is vital! From combing your hair to polishing your shoes! More tips here http://totally-you-consulting.co.uk/making-an-impression-the-small-stuff-really-does-count/

Ladies – did you know that research suggests that women who wear well applied subtle make up are paid 23% higher than those who wear none!

Gentlemen – Facial hair is now seen as more acceptable in business, but concealing the lips and mouth is still a barrier to good communication. If you are going for a beard or stubble, you’ll need to spend more time, not less, on grooming!

7. What about your body language – how do you communicate when you first meet someone? How firm is your handshake? Do you make good eye contact? Do you sit and stand confidently? Most importantly – do you smile – with   your  eyes too!

 8. Finally – you have made a fantastic first impression you have shown that you have thought about the culture of the organisation or client you are meeting, they can see that you will indeed fit in and are able to retain and express your own personality, so now is the time to clearly express your skill strengths that align so well with the job that is on offer.

 Take time to look at ‘Brand You’ whether you are changing employers, moving up through an organisation or working for yourself, understanding your brand and how others see you will lead to more inner confidence and greater personal success!

 If you would like to explore your personality, understand your strengths and challenges and how to apply this to your business, maybe taking the Talent Dynamics profile with a follow up coaching session would work for you. If so give me a call 07742 445243.  We can talk about how it works and if it would be useful for you.

Style at 40, 50, 60 and beyond in 2014

54488_T1S6305 Another year, sales are on and there appears to be lots of bargains out there, but are they really bargains? If the colours and styles don’t work for you those great buys may stay in your wardrobe for the whole year never worn.

How do you feel about choosing styles that work both for your body shape and your age? You know you still feel 20 inside, but how do you show the world that you are still fabulous?

We can get stuck in a rut with how we dress, becoming used to a certain style, maybe it is very casual, because we spend a lot of time at home, or maybe having worked for a large corporate organisation for so long dark suits and a ‘professional’ image are now the norm.

 

How do you break out of the pattern? You don’t want to look like ‘mutton dressed as lamb’ but you do want a change.

Here is a starting point. Think about some of these areas.

  •  Take a little time to think about your true personality – how much does this shine through in what you wear?
  • If you could choose any style (if you were brave enough!) what would it be?
  • Maybe classic or dramatic or creative maybe a little quirky?
  • Who do you know that carries off this style really well, it maybe a celebrity or possibly someone you know. Take a look at what they wear, how could you adapt this look for your own personality and body shape?
  • What colours do you wear? Do you stick to the same set of colours all the time? Do you wear a lot of black – why is that? Is it about confidence or just an easy life?

 

Now time for a little action!

 

  • Go out shopping, take a friend who will be really honest with you and try on lots of clothes
  • Try things that you have never considered before
  • Remember that some things that don’t look great on the hanger can sometimes surprise you and look fabulous on! (this of course works the other way too!)
  • Try colours you haven’t worn before – look at your face when you try a different colour – does it make you look healthy and your eyes sparkle or does it quite frankly make you look ill??

 

Remember accessories, they can make a huge difference to your look

  • Try jewellery, scarves, belts, hats, with your outfit, have fun experimenting
  • Keep all your accessories in line with your body scale so as not to over whelm
  • Think about how you can express your personality through your accessories

 

It is always good to get professional advice, so if you would like to know more about what colours and styles will make you look fabulous for who you are NOW! Give me a call on 07742 445243 I would love to speak with you.

Does Your Personality Shine Through Your Style?

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Have you ever walked into a room and noticed someone who looks like a vibrant out going person only to be surprised when you speak to them and find it difficult to engage them  in conversation? Or perhaps you have approached a very subdued looking individual and then found they are bubbly and expressive.

Whether it’s consciously or unconsciously we tend to make an initial judgement on others in the room by what we see and engage in conversation with that thought in mind.

Considering our personal style when dressing can really help to ensure that we are encouraging an approach from others that we are comfortable with and results in great communication.

So if you are naturally quiet and introverted- dressing in elegant, sophisticated styles and wearing more muted but beautifully put together colours will encourage a more questioning, calmer approach.

For those who enjoy an enthusiastic and outgoing encounter, wearing a stronger look in contrasting and more vibrant colours – perhaps including some quirkiness in style will draw in the communication that works with your personality.

So many of use think a lot about what we say and often forget the impact of how we look!

Top Business Women Dress with Confidence

Shoot photo cropDo you dress to represent who you really are or do you conform to the rules and blend in with the crowd?

I am not suggesting that it is always appropriate to dress in outrageous styles and colours. but so many of us do the complete opposite and get lost in the background. Is that OK for you or do you need to be seen to raise your profile?

Being successful in any sphere of life depends on our self esteem and confidence, it can be easy to run with the pack and try not to stand out, but what will that achieve? Yes it is more difficult to assert your personality and true values through your appearance, especially if you are not accustomed to being noticed, but it can make so much difference.

I work with many brilliant, intelligent and focused women who are successfully building their careers, however many of them have something else in common.  Talk to them about their skills, and their confidence is obvious, talk to them about themselves, the impact they personally make on others and their personal confidence and self esteem are much lower.

This doesn’t seem to cause them quite so much of a problem until reaching senior management, board level or  starting a business. It is then that there is a  need to be seen for who you are, not a copy or reflection of  perhaps a male counterpart or corporate environment. Standing out as a professional confident woman, who expresses her own unique personality, through communication and physical appearance, will make a huge positive impact on those around you and lead to greater success.

If you would like to make that positive impression here are 5 initial tips to help you think about how you can be uniquely you in your career or business.

1. Know your values – what you stand for and how you want to be seen and heard.

  • You can achieve this through working with a great coach, who will help you explore this in a new and objective way.
  • Consider your communication style and your body language.

2. Think about your work environment – what is expected – dress codes etc. How can you fit in where you need to and yet allow your personality to shine through? (What is your style personality?)

  • Jewellery, scarves, belts, handbags and shoes are all great ways to add personality
  • What about the style of your suit, dress, trousers – more formal clothing does not have to be boring! Colour and quirky touches of style can make so much difference.

3. What colours do you wear to work? What do these say about you?

  • Black can say authoritative or it could say boring – blending into the background. It depends how you wear it and what colurs you wear with it. Try navy as an alternative, it is a much better colour for communication.
  • Using colours which look good on you, those that work with your skin tone is important for your confidence and the impression you make on others.

4. Be confident in what you wear, know that it works for you.

  • Know the things to avoid – if a neckline feels too low, it probably is!
  • Choose styles which work well with your body shape, so you are not worrying about those areas of your body you don’t like so much.

5. ALWAYS – make sure you are well groomed!

  • Does your hairstyle work? Does it reflect your style, but not get in your way causing you to have to adjust it constantly? Never  scrape it back into a pony tail because you haven’t had time to wash it!
  • Are you nails well manicured? Nail polish will add that final finishing touch, but it is not for everyone
  • Do your clothes fit well? Not so tight that it causes  pulling, gaping buttons or crease lines to appear around the waist or tops of legs. Not so baggy that your clothes disguise your shape and you end up looking like you are lost somewhere inside.
  • Are you wearing makeup? A little will enhance your look – too much will detract. Lipstick if you wear it will complete the look.

Personal confidence and self esteem come from knowing you are great at what you do and begin certain that you can always create a strong and personable impact.

Dress for who you are and what you want to achieve and make the impact you want!

‘I thoroughly enjoyed working with Sandra, she understood my boundaries instinctively and worked within these. The results have been brilliant, and I have received a number of comments in a short space of time. I have already recommended Sandra and will continue to do so’.

Katie – Financial Director

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