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Does Your Personality Shine Through Your Style?

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Have you ever walked into a room and noticed someone who looks like a vibrant out going person only to be surprised when you speak to them and find it difficult to engage them  in conversation? Or perhaps you have approached a very subdued looking individual and then found they are bubbly and expressive.

Whether it’s consciously or unconsciously we tend to make an initial judgement on others in the room by what we see and engage in conversation with that thought in mind.

Considering our personal style when dressing can really help to ensure that we are encouraging an approach from others that we are comfortable with and results in great communication.

So if you are naturally quiet and introverted- dressing in elegant, sophisticated styles and wearing more muted but beautifully put together colours will encourage a more questioning, calmer approach.

For those who enjoy an enthusiastic and outgoing encounter, wearing a stronger look in contrasting and more vibrant colours – perhaps including some quirkiness in style will draw in the communication that works with your personality.

So many of use think a lot about what we say and often forget the impact of how we look!

Back to work with confidence & style!

It is now many years ago for me and yet I can still remember that feeling in my stomach when I realised it was time for me to re-enter the job market after having been at home for a number of years with my children.

What could I possibly do now? I had lost all my work skills hadn’t I? On top of that, I looked and felt like a ‘Mum’ in my eyes, my wardrobe had been reduced to mainly jeans, casual skirts and tops – oh yes I did have a suit in there somewhere, but it was now about 5 years out of date and to be honest a little tight in certain places!

I could now look after children – reasonably well, but not sure I could compete in the work place. However, what I didn’t think about was all those skills I had had to learn being a mum and how they could quite easily be transferred to the work place.

Organisation – the logistics of getting children to school, on to clubs, juggling housework, cooking and being there for your other half, takes some organising!

Listening – as a mum being a great listener is something we all do and take for granted

Negotiating – well that is obviously a key skill – bedtime, eating dinner, getting homework done, and much more all take negotiation skills.

Mentoring and Coaching – finding the best way to teach, advise, and guide!

Creativity – thinking of new ways to get things done, fabulous craft work with the children, maybe you have even got involved in some interior design in your home.

These are just five skills off the top of my head that so many mums have cultivated and use daily without even thinking about it. With  at times a little adaption and maybe in some areas a bit more training these skills are great assets in the work place.

As for your wardrobe – a little colour & style advice, a trip to the shops (you don’t have to spend a fortune) and you are back on track! Have you seen my tips over the last few weeks? Here is a summary!

  • Find time to clear out your wardrobe – throw away things which are no longer working for you
  • Understand how you want to be seen – what is your style and body shape
  • Think about where you want to work – what clothes would work best?
  • If the dress code is business casual, think about buying some great basics, then mix and match, personalise with accessories
  • For a more formal environment – invest on one great suit, if possible with both a skirt and trousers, then you can buy slightly less expensive tops to vary the look. You can also add your personality to this look with great jewellery.
  • Remember, great grooming is essential – you can have the most amazing outfit, but if your hair is a mess, you have bitten down nails and no make up or if your clothes are creased, have marks on them or don’t fit well – all your efforts will be in vain!
  • So to have time to ensure you can go out the door looking fab – organise your time. Decide what you will be wearing the next morning – including shoes, jewellery and make up and have it all set out ready.
  • And I make no apologies for mentioning this again – make sure your wardrobe is orgainsed! Make sure that only the clothes you are currently using are in the cupboard and if possible arrange to reflect your lifestyle – if nothing else, put work outfits together for easy access!

If you would like some help with any of these areas, Book a session with me now – 07742 445243! You can do most of this yourself, but my clients tell me that it is so much easier – and more fun with some professional guidance!

 

Making an impression – the small stuff really does count!

Grooming isn’t about buying the most expensive toiletries, designer clothes and highly priced accessories, it is about taking the time to look good, because you value yourself and want to feel confident when you are out there talking to clients and suppliers. It is also about your clients being able to see that you have made an effort; this will lead them to believe that you will also take that same time and effort to provide them with great service.

If you have made an effort it will make you feel great and this will increase your energy and focus, helping you to deal with the challenges you face, not having to worry about how you look. This is why it is so important that the clothes you choose reflect the ‘real you’ so that you can feel comfortable both inside and out, whilst also making that positive impression on people you meet.

Choose an outfit that you are going to feel great in all day – relax and enjoy being ‘yourself’ – remember you are the successful, confident person you wish to be!

The small stuff really does count!

Tips about the small stuff:

1. Remember to wear a watch – it helps to ensure you are on time and also that you do not overrun.

2. How do your shoes look? Are they clean? Do they need a polish?

3. Are you clothes in good condition?

a. Are there any buttons missing?
b. Check the hem line to make sure it is not coming loose
c. Are there any marks – could they do with a wash or a dry clean?

4. Do your clothes fit well?

a. Do the buttons pull apart when you sit?
b.  Do your clothes crease because they are too tight?
c. Are they too big? Pulled in with a belt to make them fit?

5. Ladies – have you added some make-up? This shows effort and completes the picture, it does not have to be heavy, just a touch will make an impact.

6 Consider your nails – having them manicured and polished is great – we forget how much we use our hands and how much they are on show! However at minimum, for both men and ladies make sure they are clean and well kept!

7. How clean is you hair and is it in an easy to manage style? Gentlemen, when did you last have a haircut? If you have a beard or other facial hair, is it neatly trimmed?

8. What accessories are you wearing? Do these enhance or detract from the image you want to create?

9. If you have to travel to a meeting remember:

a. Take a comb or brush – windy or rainy days cause havoc with the hair!
b. Remember your umbrella – drowned rat image is not so good!
c. If it is very warm weather, think about taking a spare shirt/top and some deodorant.
d. Choose good brief case or bag for your papers
e. Wear clothes that don’t crease!
f. Ladies – wear a comfortable pair of shoes and take the heels with you.
g. Take a cloth or have a tissue available to wipe over your shoes if necessary.

Get the small stuff right and you can relax, knowing that the effort you have made really makes a difference!

Then if you want to learn more about what colours and style work uniquely well for you – give me a call or ask for a voucher  as a gift so that you can have a fabulous personal session!

Call 07742 445243!

 

 

 

 

How do I dress appropriately for my age?

It is always a dilemma – how do you make sure you are dressing in a way that compliments your age? For me it is not a question of what clothes are right for what age group, it is much more about the styles and colours which work with, your body shape, your skin tone, your personality and your environment. It is not about fashion it’s about what works for you and makes you look fabulous!

 

 Here are a few tips which may help:

 

  • Forget about the size label, make sure that your clothes fit well – no gaping buttons, over tight tops, trousers with pockets which poke out as they are too tight on the hips etc.
  • Think about your body shape – does the material work with your shape?  Softer material which flows with your curves.  More structured fabric which compliments your more angular figure
  • Ensure the length of your dress/shirt works for you – hemline finishing at a narrower part of your leg, either just above or just below the knee
  • Choose colours which flatter. Remember that as your hair colour changes, some of the stronger shades could become over powering (This does not mean wearing only pastels as they may well wash you out) just go a shade or two lighter.
  • If you like to be in tune with fashion, add this through your accessories as they are easily changed to keep up with the trends. Accessories are the magic touch which transform an outfit!

 Something to think about – if a person saw you first from behind, would what you are wearing give them a clear impression of what to expect when meeting you face to face? Clothes which compliment your appearance and make an amazing first and lasting impression!

 

 If you would like some help to build a wardrobe full of outfits which boost your confidence and speak of who you are and how you want to be seen take a look at my Colour Analysis, Colour & Style Sessions or Wardrobe & Personal Shopping Sessions. Alternatively give me a call on 07742 445243 to see what might work for you!

Colour is Powerful!

Colour can help you look healthier, younger, more approachable, more assertive, creative or professional; it can make your skin glow and your eyes sparkle, if you know how!

Colour can also make you look drained, showing up the lines and shadows on your face. It can give out the wrong messages psychologically – disguising your creative personality or portraying a strong authoritative impression (when you don’t intend it to) triggering a defensive response from those you wish to influence.

So how can you ensure colour works positively for you? Two ways:

  1.  Know what colours work with your skin tone, so that you can look and feel great.
  2. Understand just a little about the psychological impact colours have on those you wish to communicate with.

Colours & Skin Tone

Wearing colours that work well with your skin tone can make a significant difference to your appearance; building your confidence and making you feel great! So finding out what works best for you is a fun and very useful thing to invest in.  You can then choose clothes and accessories that really work for you!

Determining Skin Tone

 This can be quite tricky and professional help is a good way to ensure you have got it right; however here are a few general tips:

 

Cool Skin Tone

If you have a cool skin tone you will see:

  •  Pinkish or rosy undertones to the skin
  • Olive or black skin with a blue undertone
  • Brown/hazel/blue or green eyes
  • Softer greys or softer less determined eye colour
  • Black, dark brown, platinum blonde, light or mid brown, blue grey natural hair colour
  • Yellow based colours will give a sallow appearance to the face
  • The colour silver will brighten the face

Notable examples are: Sarah Jessica Parker, Sandra Bullock, Courtney Cox, and Jennifer Aniston.

So we know that the above cool colours work for our cool skin tone and that when combined in our accessories and jewellery with clear or antique silver, they will look amazing.

    

Warm Skin Tone

If you have a warm skin tone you will see:

  • Yellow based ivory, peach or golden undertones to the skin
  • Black skin with yellow undertones
  • Bright green, turquoise blue or golden brown eyes
  • Red, strawberry blonde, brown with reddish tint, chestnut, golden brown, natural hair colour
  • Blue based colours will drain the face
  • The colour gold will brighten the face

Notable examples are: Gwyneth Paltrow, Sarah Ferguson, and Nicole Kidman

The great warm colours above will work for those with a yellow undertone to your skin and your accessories will include jewellery with clear or antique gold.

 

Colour Psychology

 The final piece to the puzzle is the possible psychological impact the colours we are wearing are having on those we wish to communicate with.

Here is a little taster of the messages colour can give:

Approachable – soft or warm colours like pastel pinks, pastel blue, coral, tan or terracotta

Assertive – Strong contrasts – black or navy with bright reds or purples – Take care here!

Authoritative – Dark tones with very light tones (uniforms)

Creative – Warm/bright colours worn in unusual or unexpected colour combinations

Sensitive – Purple/violet/lavender –can be used to soften a hard look

So if you know what colour works for you and the impact it has on others, how confident will that make you feel and how successful could that make you both in business and in your social interaction?

 

If you want to know more about how to discover what colours can really work for you, give me or call on 07742 445243 or email me at Totallyyou@live.co.uk for a free no obligations initial consultation.

Back to Work Mum – Dressing for Interviews

You have decided that now is the time to return to work. May be you have been at home with your children for a few years and become used to a very relaxed way of dressing.

Is your wardrobe full of casual clothes which are great for what you do now, but maybe not so much for the work place?

Well the first step is probably the interview, so what do you wear?

 Here are a few hints and tips:

 

  1. Take time to find out what dress code is expected at the company where you have your interview.
    1. If you are not sure and can’t find any hints online, then call the person on reception if there is one, they are always great for inside information.
  2. If the dress code is for example business casual – always think about dressing just slightly smarter. Not over the top, but just enough to show that you have made a special effort.
  3. If you are going to a professional, formal company, comply with their expectations and add just a subtle touch of your personality – either with colour or accessories
  4. If you have chosen to wear a dress or a skirt – always wear tights – even if it is summer!
  5. Never be tempted to dress extremely casually even if their dress code is normally casual. Don’t ever go in jeans!
  6. Finally grooming is everything! Well groomed hair, an appropriate amount of make up (yes it is best to wear makeup even a small touch makes a big difference), a touch of perfume – never over powering, clean shoes, an appropriate bag to carry your personal belongings plus any paperwork required. Never use a plastic carrier or similar!

The key is to ensure you fit in with the potential employer’s expectations and stand out enough to show your personality, which may win you the job over the next person.

Remember that if you feel good it will add to your confidence and then you are much more likely to have a good interview.

If you feel you would like a few more tips and a chance to talk to other mums who are in the same situation as you, why not pop along to our Mum 2 Me Workshop on 4th October 2012 in Ewell Surrey – some great support and tips, plus refreshments and tools to help you re-build your personal and wardrobe confidence. All for just £25!

Give me a call on 07742 445243 to book your place NOW!

Ask about individual sessions too!

Dating again?

Are you are facing the dating game again!

I speak to many ladies and some men too who find themselves in this situation, maybe due to a break down of their previous relationship or sometimes having been widowed. It can be a very difficult step to decide to look for the next relationship and this is often not helped by low self confidence and a fear of being rejected.

For some one of the key things holding them back is their appearance, they no longer feel confident in how they present themselves. How do you dress to meet a potential date at the pub, at a restaurant, for a walk in the park? How do you ensure that you are not over dressed but that you show you have made a real effort? Are you dressing to suit your personality – this is one of the key things you are trying to get across to your date, so it really helps to make sure you feel comfortable in yourself and that you clothes point to who you really are. It is important however, if you are a very relaxed person, to still show that you have made an effort to look good for the occasion!

May be it is quite sometime since you have been in this situation and have no idea where to start to make a great first impression and yet still be yourself. How do you ensure that you look stylish and yet don’t end up dressing too young for your age? This is often something people worry about a bit too much. If you are wearing something which really suits you and your body shape and is appropriate for the occasion, it is unlikely to look too young for you.

How you look and feel when you leave the house for your date will impact significantly on your self esteem and confidence.

Knowing how to dress for your personality, colouring and body shape will boost your self esteem and allow you to go out there with confidence, looking fabulous!

I can help you discover the very best way to present yourself for who you are NOW! You will then be able to build up your wardrobe over time, so that you know just what outfits to choose for each occasion.

 

Want to know more? Give me a call on 07742 445243

40, 50, 60? You can still look and feel fabulous!

  It is sometimes difficult to face that milestone birthday! You know you still feel 20 inside, but how do you show the world that you are still fabulous?

We can get stuck in a rut with how we dress, becoming used to a certain style, maybe it is very casual, because we spend a lot of time at home, or maybe having worked for a large corporate organisation for so long dark suits and a ‘professional’ image are now the norm.

How do you break out of the pattern? You don’t want to look like ‘mutton dressed as lamb’ but you do want a change.

Here is a starting point. Think about some of these areas.

  • Take a little time to think about your true personality – how much does this shine through in what you wear?
    • If you could choose any style (if you were brave enough!) what would it be?
    • Maybe classic or dramatic or creative maybe a little quirky?
  • Who do you know that carries off this style really well, it maybe a celebrity or possibly someone you know. Take a look at what they wear, how could you adapt this look for your own personality and body shape?
  • What colours do you wear? Do you stick to the same set of colours all the time? Do you wear a lot of black – why is that? Is it about confidence or just an easy life?

Now time for a little action!

  • Go out shopping, take a friend who will be really honest with you and try on lots of clothes
    • Try things that you have never considered before
    • Remember that some things that don’t look great on the hanger can sometimes surprise you and look fabulous on! (this of course works the other way too!)
    • Try colours you haven’t worn before – look at your face when you try a different colour – does it make you look healthy and your eyes sparkle or does it quite frankly make you look ill??
  • Remember accessories, they can make a huge difference to your look
    • Try jewellery, scarves, belts, hats, with your outfit, have fun experimenting
    • Keep all your accessories in line with your body scale so as not to over whelm
    • Think about how you can express your personality through your accessories

It is always good to get professional advice, so if you would like to know more about what colours and styles will make you look fabulous for who you are NOW! Give me a call on 07742 445243 I would love to speak with you.

From Mum 2 Me

 

It is now many years ago for me and yet I can still remember that feeling in my stomach when I realised it was time for me to re-enter the job market after having been at home for a number of years with my children.

What could I possibly do now? I had lost all my work skills hadn’t I? On top of that, I looked and felt like a ‘Mum’ in my eyes, my wardrobe had been reduced to mainly jeans, casual skirts and tops – oh yes I did have a suit in there somewhere, but it was now about 5 years out of date and to be honest a little tight in certain places!

I could now look after children – reasonably well, but not sure I could compete in the work place. However, what I didn’t think about was all those skills I had had to learn being a mum and how they could quite easily be transferred to the work place.

Organisation – the logistics of getting children to school, on to clubs, juggling housework, cooking and being there for your other half, takes some organising!

Listening – as a mum being a great listener is something we all do and take for granted

Negotiating – well that is obviously a key skill – bedtime, eating dinner, getting homework done, and much more all take negotiation skills.

Mentoring and Coaching – finding the best way to teach, advise, and guide!

Creativity – thinking of new ways to get things done, fabulous craft work with the children, maybe you have even got involved in some interior design in your home.

These are just five skills off the top of my head that so many mums have cultivated and use daily without even thinking about it. With  at times a little adaption and maybe in some areas a bit more training these skills are great assets in the work place.

As for your wardrobe – a little colour & style advice, a trip to the shops (you don’t have to spend a fortune) and you are back on track!

If you feel you would like a little help take a look at the Mum 2 Me workshop on my workshops and events page, it may be just what you need to get you thinking positively about your return to work. http://totally-you-consulting.co.uk/sample-page/workshops-events/

Good luck with your return to work and your journey from Mum 2 Me!

 

 

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