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A-Z of Dressing for Success – Letter D

 

 

D

 

Details

Attention to detail is important when pulling an outfit together to make a great personal impression. Accessories and personal grooming are the finishing touches. If you haven’t thought about personal grooming details like, clean nails, clean and tidy hair and appropriate makeup, then the impact you make may not be as effective as you would like.

One detail which is a big one for me is clean, polished, well cared for shoes!

 

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Dress for Success

Think about how you want to be perceived. Does your look make sense with who you are and what you do? Does your look fit with the culture and environment you work in? What are your clients and customers expectations?

Remember it only takes 7 seconds to make a first impression – no time to talk! It then takes up to 20 more encounters with that person to change their perception.

 

 

Confidence

 

 

 

 

 

Does Your Personality Shine Through Your Style?

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Have you ever walked into a room and noticed someone who looks like a vibrant out going person only to be surprised when you speak to them and find it difficult to engage them  in conversation? Or perhaps you have approached a very subdued looking individual and then found they are bubbly and expressive.

Whether it’s consciously or unconsciously we tend to make an initial judgement on others in the room by what we see and engage in conversation with that thought in mind.

Considering our personal style when dressing can really help to ensure that we are encouraging an approach from others that we are comfortable with and results in great communication.

So if you are naturally quiet and introverted- dressing in elegant, sophisticated styles and wearing more muted but beautifully put together colours will encourage a more questioning, calmer approach.

For those who enjoy an enthusiastic and outgoing encounter, wearing a stronger look in contrasting and more vibrant colours – perhaps including some quirkiness in style will draw in the communication that works with your personality.

So many of use think a lot about what we say and often forget the impact of how we look!

Back to work with confidence & style!

It is now many years ago for me and yet I can still remember that feeling in my stomach when I realised it was time for me to re-enter the job market after having been at home for a number of years with my children.

What could I possibly do now? I had lost all my work skills hadn’t I? On top of that, I looked and felt like a ‘Mum’ in my eyes, my wardrobe had been reduced to mainly jeans, casual skirts and tops – oh yes I did have a suit in there somewhere, but it was now about 5 years out of date and to be honest a little tight in certain places!

I could now look after children – reasonably well, but not sure I could compete in the work place. However, what I didn’t think about was all those skills I had had to learn being a mum and how they could quite easily be transferred to the work place.

Organisation – the logistics of getting children to school, on to clubs, juggling housework, cooking and being there for your other half, takes some organising!

Listening – as a mum being a great listener is something we all do and take for granted

Negotiating – well that is obviously a key skill – bedtime, eating dinner, getting homework done, and much more all take negotiation skills.

Mentoring and Coaching – finding the best way to teach, advise, and guide!

Creativity – thinking of new ways to get things done, fabulous craft work with the children, maybe you have even got involved in some interior design in your home.

These are just five skills off the top of my head that so many mums have cultivated and use daily without even thinking about it. With  at times a little adaption and maybe in some areas a bit more training these skills are great assets in the work place.

As for your wardrobe – a little colour & style advice, a trip to the shops (you don’t have to spend a fortune) and you are back on track! Have you seen my tips over the last few weeks? Here is a summary!

  • Find time to clear out your wardrobe – throw away things which are no longer working for you
  • Understand how you want to be seen – what is your style and body shape
  • Think about where you want to work – what clothes would work best?
  • If the dress code is business casual, think about buying some great basics, then mix and match, personalise with accessories
  • For a more formal environment – invest on one great suit, if possible with both a skirt and trousers, then you can buy slightly less expensive tops to vary the look. You can also add your personality to this look with great jewellery.
  • Remember, great grooming is essential – you can have the most amazing outfit, but if your hair is a mess, you have bitten down nails and no make up or if your clothes are creased, have marks on them or don’t fit well – all your efforts will be in vain!
  • So to have time to ensure you can go out the door looking fab – organise your time. Decide what you will be wearing the next morning – including shoes, jewellery and make up and have it all set out ready.
  • And I make no apologies for mentioning this again – make sure your wardrobe is orgainsed! Make sure that only the clothes you are currently using are in the cupboard and if possible arrange to reflect your lifestyle – if nothing else, put work outfits together for easy access!

If you would like some help with any of these areas, Book a session with me now – 07742 445243! You can do most of this yourself, but my clients tell me that it is so much easier – and more fun with some professional guidance!

 

Colour is Powerful!

Colour can help you look healthier, younger, more approachable, more assertive, creative or professional; it can make your skin glow and your eyes sparkle, if you know how!

Colour can also make you look drained, showing up the lines and shadows on your face. It can give out the wrong messages psychologically – disguising your creative personality or portraying a strong authoritative impression (when you don’t intend it to) triggering a defensive response from those you wish to influence.

So how can you ensure colour works positively for you? Two ways:

  1.  Know what colours work with your skin tone, so that you can look and feel great.
  2. Understand just a little about the psychological impact colours have on those you wish to communicate with.

Colours & Skin Tone

Wearing colours that work well with your skin tone can make a significant difference to your appearance; building your confidence and making you feel great! So finding out what works best for you is a fun and very useful thing to invest in.  You can then choose clothes and accessories that really work for you!

Determining Skin Tone

 This can be quite tricky and professional help is a good way to ensure you have got it right; however here are a few general tips:

 

Cool Skin Tone

If you have a cool skin tone you will see:

  •  Pinkish or rosy undertones to the skin
  • Olive or black skin with a blue undertone
  • Brown/hazel/blue or green eyes
  • Softer greys or softer less determined eye colour
  • Black, dark brown, platinum blonde, light or mid brown, blue grey natural hair colour
  • Yellow based colours will give a sallow appearance to the face
  • The colour silver will brighten the face

Notable examples are: Sarah Jessica Parker, Sandra Bullock, Courtney Cox, and Jennifer Aniston.

So we know that the above cool colours work for our cool skin tone and that when combined in our accessories and jewellery with clear or antique silver, they will look amazing.

    

Warm Skin Tone

If you have a warm skin tone you will see:

  • Yellow based ivory, peach or golden undertones to the skin
  • Black skin with yellow undertones
  • Bright green, turquoise blue or golden brown eyes
  • Red, strawberry blonde, brown with reddish tint, chestnut, golden brown, natural hair colour
  • Blue based colours will drain the face
  • The colour gold will brighten the face

Notable examples are: Gwyneth Paltrow, Sarah Ferguson, and Nicole Kidman

The great warm colours above will work for those with a yellow undertone to your skin and your accessories will include jewellery with clear or antique gold.

 

Colour Psychology

 The final piece to the puzzle is the possible psychological impact the colours we are wearing are having on those we wish to communicate with.

Here is a little taster of the messages colour can give:

Approachable – soft or warm colours like pastel pinks, pastel blue, coral, tan or terracotta

Assertive – Strong contrasts – black or navy with bright reds or purples – Take care here!

Authoritative – Dark tones with very light tones (uniforms)

Creative – Warm/bright colours worn in unusual or unexpected colour combinations

Sensitive – Purple/violet/lavender –can be used to soften a hard look

So if you know what colour works for you and the impact it has on others, how confident will that make you feel and how successful could that make you both in business and in your social interaction?

 

If you want to know more about how to discover what colours can really work for you, give me or call on 07742 445243 or email me at Totallyyou@live.co.uk for a free no obligations initial consultation.

Dating again?

Are you are facing the dating game again!

I speak to many ladies and some men too who find themselves in this situation, maybe due to a break down of their previous relationship or sometimes having been widowed. It can be a very difficult step to decide to look for the next relationship and this is often not helped by low self confidence and a fear of being rejected.

For some one of the key things holding them back is their appearance, they no longer feel confident in how they present themselves. How do you dress to meet a potential date at the pub, at a restaurant, for a walk in the park? How do you ensure that you are not over dressed but that you show you have made a real effort? Are you dressing to suit your personality – this is one of the key things you are trying to get across to your date, so it really helps to make sure you feel comfortable in yourself and that you clothes point to who you really are. It is important however, if you are a very relaxed person, to still show that you have made an effort to look good for the occasion!

May be it is quite sometime since you have been in this situation and have no idea where to start to make a great first impression and yet still be yourself. How do you ensure that you look stylish and yet don’t end up dressing too young for your age? This is often something people worry about a bit too much. If you are wearing something which really suits you and your body shape and is appropriate for the occasion, it is unlikely to look too young for you.

How you look and feel when you leave the house for your date will impact significantly on your self esteem and confidence.

Knowing how to dress for your personality, colouring and body shape will boost your self esteem and allow you to go out there with confidence, looking fabulous!

I can help you discover the very best way to present yourself for who you are NOW! You will then be able to build up your wardrobe over time, so that you know just what outfits to choose for each occasion.

 

Want to know more? Give me a call on 07742 445243

From Mum 2 Me

 

It is now many years ago for me and yet I can still remember that feeling in my stomach when I realised it was time for me to re-enter the job market after having been at home for a number of years with my children.

What could I possibly do now? I had lost all my work skills hadn’t I? On top of that, I looked and felt like a ‘Mum’ in my eyes, my wardrobe had been reduced to mainly jeans, casual skirts and tops – oh yes I did have a suit in there somewhere, but it was now about 5 years out of date and to be honest a little tight in certain places!

I could now look after children – reasonably well, but not sure I could compete in the work place. However, what I didn’t think about was all those skills I had had to learn being a mum and how they could quite easily be transferred to the work place.

Organisation – the logistics of getting children to school, on to clubs, juggling housework, cooking and being there for your other half, takes some organising!

Listening – as a mum being a great listener is something we all do and take for granted

Negotiating – well that is obviously a key skill – bedtime, eating dinner, getting homework done, and much more all take negotiation skills.

Mentoring and Coaching – finding the best way to teach, advise, and guide!

Creativity – thinking of new ways to get things done, fabulous craft work with the children, maybe you have even got involved in some interior design in your home.

These are just five skills off the top of my head that so many mums have cultivated and use daily without even thinking about it. With  at times a little adaption and maybe in some areas a bit more training these skills are great assets in the work place.

As for your wardrobe – a little colour & style advice, a trip to the shops (you don’t have to spend a fortune) and you are back on track!

If you feel you would like a little help take a look at the Mum 2 Me workshop on my workshops and events page, it may be just what you need to get you thinking positively about your return to work. http://totally-you-consulting.co.uk/sample-page/workshops-events/

Good luck with your return to work and your journey from Mum 2 Me!

 

 

Does what you wear matter?

 

How much does what we wear matter?  It’s what inside that matters most isn’t it?

Most people would agree, that it is the person we are – what is on the inside that really matters. It’s about how we communicate with people, our values and how we treat others that makes the most impact.

All very true, and we also know that first impressions count, people will make a judgement about us in the first 7 seconds of a meeting, it will the take around 20 more encounters to really change the opinion formed in that first encounter. So how can you ensure that the right message is visible, allowing you the opportunity to build on this and let people see the real you?

Here are my 5 top tips

1. Take time to understand how you want to be seen – the image/brand that fits with the real you.

2. Dress to suite your personality, your business (if work related), and your body shape.

3. Don’t forget that good grooming is vital!

4. Remember to adapt to your audience expectations – however never loose your own style!

5. If you have done the last 4 steps you will look great! Go out there with confidence!

What do you think? Would how you dress change the impact you have? I would love to hear your comments.

If you need any guidance on how to achieve a great look  give me a call on:

07742 445243

 

 

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